As a mom, it’s easy to lose yourself in the day to day activities of family life. Things like cooking, laundry, preparing the kids for school, struggling with office duties and so much more often come before our much needed personal time and space which is a very essential part of being a good mother. If you have self-care at the bottom of your to-do list or maybe it has never made it to the list, it’s time to put self-care at the very top. You can be healthy, look great and enjoy a happy life while juggling family and career.
Even if you have the busiest schedule, you can still squeeze in some time to attend to your own needs everyday. Take advantage of early mornings before the kids wake up. Have a quick meditation, do simple exercises, read something from a book, write in a journal or just take a few deep breaths. You can start with as little ten minutes dedicated to yourself. It will go a long way. You can also plan out a night time self-care routine before going to bed.
Do Away With Every Form of Guilt
Most moms struggle with feelings of guilt when they take some time away from family to practice self-care. You might actually never get around to your own needs if you keep feeling the guilt.
Stay Connected to Yourself
Try not to lose yourself in all the day’s work and family needs that seem to increase by each day. Think about the things that give you joy and squeeze in time to do some of them. You might not be able to do the same activities you did before having kids, but you can find easy alternatives. Pursue your hobbies. Find some time and space to read that book you love.
Don’t ignore your skin too. Simplify your beauty routines for easy access. Get long-lasting hairstyles that will require less maintenance. Remember, when we look good, we feel good.
Staying connected to our own well-being radiates even to our children and we feel more joyful, patient, and full of life.
Make Sleep and Exercise a Priority
Most of the time, you want to get stuff done before the kids wake up so you end up losing more sleep than you get. This leaves you feeling stressed out. Research studies have shown that lack of sleep can trigger an increased appetite, which causes weight gain and increases the risk of depression and other adverse health consequences. Create a regular bedtime routine that works for you and your kids and stick to it. Some chores can wait really.
You also need to get your body moving. It doesn’t have to be a lot hours at the gym. You can always work out at home. Buy a pilates DVD and sweat it out at home. Work out with your kids to spend more quality time with them. You can address their needs or questions, talk about school or how your day went while you exercise together.
Pay Attention to Your Health
Most mothers tend to ignore their body’s signals and neglect the need for medical attention and these can lead to some serious health problems. Don’t wait till you fall terribly ill, schedule annual check ups, get pap smears, check your vision or just do a full body check up once in a while. Make your health a priority just like your kids health are.
Also, try to eat good food all the time because good food fuels the body. Nourish your body with proper foods. Avoid fast foods and cook at home more often. Ditch soda and drink lots of water instead. Stock your fridge up with healthy meals for the week to make things easier for you.
You don’t have to be in charge of everything, all the time. We often feel we have to be at the forefront of everything because we think we are the only ones who can do it right. This can affect us negatively, leaving us drained at the end of everyday. Try leaving the kids with their father or grandparents sometimes while you go out to have some fun and catch up with your girlfriends. You can also employ the services of a nanny or babysitter to reduce the workload on you.
When mommy is stressed out, she becomes cranky and irritable and this can affect the whole family. A baby can become fussy because his mother is upset. Even older kids can respond by acting out and increasing the tension. Taking out ten minutes or an hour to do whatever makes you feel good won’t do you any harm, instead it will make your day easier. Pay attention to your own needs and find you’ll be better at meeting your family’s needs.